Hurting
Posted on Aug 3, 2021
I’m holding off on my next article on “The church Is Failing” to write this thought provoking article. It certainly could be included in that series of articles, and it may be later, but for some reason, I felt God asking e to comment on it.
Recently, I came across a FB meme that just had the following comment o their church sign, “We Love Hurting People” and a picture of Jesus (OK, we have no idea of what Jesus really looked like but it was an artist’s interpretation of what they thought He looked like; a topic for another day).
So how did you take that when you first read it? Did you take the word ‘hurting’ as an adjective (who from my high school would ave known that I would get that one right) and the word “Love” a verb? Or did you take the word ‘hurting’ as the verb and the word ‘love’ as an adverb?
Repeat the phrase so that you can understand it in both contexts.
So how did you take that when you first read it? Did you take the word ‘hurting’ as an adjective (who from my high school would ave known that I would get that one right) and the word “Love” a verb? Or did you take the word ‘hurting’ as the verb and the word ‘love’ as an adverb?
Repeat the phrase so that you can understand it in both contexts.
In the meme, the person representing Jesus is slapping His head, as if in surprised disappointment and probably making the Homer Simpson noise of Doop.
Before Jesus left earth for heaven, He created and instituted the Church and left it in the care of the Elders. The Church has several explicitly stated tasks mentioned in the New Testament and among those are to care for people who are hurting. It is called to care for those hurting physically, emotionally and spiritually. It is to care for those in it’s congregation, in the community and around the world.
The churches today may do an OK job of loving hurting people between 10am – 11am (or whatever hours a congregations worship service occurs or possibly multiple worship services if the congregation is large enough or energetic enough to warrant it). Another words, a church family member or visitor may find some empathy from a congregation during this time. It may be a simple hello and handshake from a person or two (rarely more) and if they do something extreme like rededicate their life or get baptized, they get several handshakes and congratulations as the majority files by them on their way to their cars and on out to Wendy's, because they have to beat the Baptists there or they’ll be waiting in line for a long time on their Sabbath Day. If the congregation is very modern, they might be lucky enough to get invited to the Wendy's with someone and if they are really lucky, someone may remember their name the next time they come to church.
Unfortunately, this is how many people feel the church loves them and I have routinely experienced this ‘love’ also. Virtually no show of interest in the individual outside of the core ‘worship’ time. No interest in them is given until they don’t come back for a week or two, at which time, someone may remember that someone that sat near them, whom they may or may not have shaken hands with, hadn’t been back since some event. If an individual has been a part of he congregation for years, it may take months before someone misses them. Of course noticing ones absence still isn’t a the same as making an attempt at reaching out or communicating.
Honestly, I don’t know why a lot of people return to a congregation more than a time or two the way they are treated. A congregation tells the person that they love them, usually only from the pulpit or from the weekly news sheet that is pretty much the same information for the whole quarter. They aren’t shown love, well actually they are shown the love to expect, that they expect or anticipate based on their Bible reading but rather based on their own or their family and friends experiences.
People expect that the church will show love by interacting with them, showing interest in them personally, inviting them to their small groups and Bible studies, being mentored when they rededicate their lives or get baptized. People expect to shown or let into places where they can use their talents in ministry and to be encouraged that they do indeed have a talent (at least one) that the Lord gave them and wants them to use.
But unfortunately, most people visiting a church are left to their own devices and interruptions, which often are incorrect. They expect God to be like a magic genie that does their bidding because no one teaches or corrects them. They think that they are going to whisked into the folds of the congregation and that all problems are just going to disappear. Why would they think any different? Even a to of the Sunday Schools and Bible studies don’t correct but let them continue on in their misunderstanding and possibly drag others down in the process due to the lack of the studies leadership and confidence.
Besides the direct no-care-itice(?) mentioned above, there are probably many more indirect reasons. Although I don’t like to pin all church problems on the preacher, if the preacher is going to be the ‘face of the church’, then he has to take responsibility.
For example, I’ve questioned preachers as to why the congregation doesn’t follow up with visitors and the response has been because the visitors don’t always leave contact information. Obviously, the current method for getting visitor information isn’t effective and could be changed. Of course, just telling someone that a change needs to happen isn’t very helpful but suggestions as to how changes could be made is (and were done).
Another avenue of thought maybe that the visitor saw nothing that attracted them to the congregation, but this is construed as offensive and hurtful. I don’t recall the conversation after that, if there was one, but the recent Covid crisis is a good example.
Many churches across the country shut down when told to do so from the government. For a couple of weeks, this was a reasonable demand until scientists and reasonable people could look at numbers, data and social impact. It would have been a great opportunity for congregational office staff to make some personal connections, even if over the phone or by e-mail, to the current members and to visitors over the past X weeks. It doesn’t appear that anything of the sorts happened. Not for myself, my parents, my brothers, aunts, uncles cousins, etc.
Once the government, and at the approval of the preachers and elders apparently from all over the country, a small percentage could gather at a time. Most places of worship separated seating so that only family groups could sit together. There were other very detrimental decisions made that would not have been taken well by visitors, had visitors been invited in. If someone was hurting, which any were, this didn’t show ANY love.
A visitor would be quarantined to a chair by themselves. Heck, members without family were quarantined by themselves. Websites would state that they could only be certain percentage full and that people could view the service on-line if they liked (a lot of churches substituted and still substitute on-line viewing with fellowship). But on-line viewing doesn’t really help those who are hurting.
I’m not sure what the solution(s) should have been for the only X percentage can meet, but for the most part, I saw no local church do anything to comfort it’s congregation let alone visitors. I saw no preachers, who just had a lot of time freed up by ‘not’ being able to do the daily jobs they say they did. In fact, I saw no attempts of any kind of change to a churches routine that may have actually been beneficial to the congregation or visitors. And when I say I saw, I am also referring to my parents, brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, etc.
We essentially saw nothing but a bunch of people not ready for the end times but apparently be willing to bow the beast and the new order. That’s a bold statement Roger. It’s a sad statement. But virtually no churches put up a fuss to the lock downs and in regards to the Jan 6, 2021 incident, church leaders and preachers stating that there is never a reason to fight**.
I won’t call people making these statements cowards, as I am pretty sure that many of them would lay their life for a family member, maybe a friend, and possibly a member of their congregation. I’m not sure what the word for them is though.
Roger, thank you for your service. But there’s never a reason to fight, so apparently thank you for nothing. You wasted 9 years of your life, but thank you. Or how about those that fought during the American Revolution? Anyone saying there is never a reason to fight is saying that We should still be under British rule (never mind all the changes that our stupid fight and victory brought through out the world). These people can’t say that Slavery was wrong. If there is never a reason to fight, then not only would the American Civil War have not occurred that ended our slavery, slavery would still be prolific in the World because it was the defeat of the British Empire that signaled the of slavery.
And of the many things that probably show that the church does indeed love to hurt people is to be hypocrites. Congregations shouldn’t be telling people that they love them, that they love hurting people, if they are only going to do so when it’s convenient; which pretty means on Sunday morning slightly before the Worship service and until about 10 minutes. Tell people up front what your love is going to look like. Maybe they’ll get less of a bad taste about Christianity if you just tell them, the truth and then they can look for another congregation if they like. Heck, if you know of a better congregation, let them know as that would be pretty loving.
Certainly don’t pretend. Don’t act interested in their kids if your only interested around VBS time. Don’t stand in the pulpit and instruct people to serve but then not let. Don’t juts place an announcement on the projector screen and think you have asked and advertised for a ministry or event. Don’t ask for veterans and first responders to rise to recognized on Veterans Day and Memorial Day and thank them for their service and then later tell them and the world that there is never a time to fight**.
I’m not sure why Jesus instituted the Church to function the way it does. But He did and I accept it and I’m trying to work within it. Many are. The Church isn’t perfect and the churches certainly are not. The churches are not perfect and one not only needs to understand this, but let others know this. But the church should be striving for perfection and not intentional doing people wrong, and also correcting their ways when they unintentionally do people wrong.
Read the text again, “We Love Hurting People”. Do you love to hurt people or do you love people that are hurting? The congregation (you) doesn’t need to wait for an edict from the preacher or Elders to begin loving people that are hurting; if you aren’t loving people that are hurting, make a change and start. If you love to hurt people, stop it and start showing the love that God and the Father and Jesus Christ shows us in the Bible. If your congregation loves to hurt people and your Elders and Preachers aren’t changing the attitude of the people around, either oust them or find a congregation that is showing love to hurting people.
Don’t be a part of the problem. Don’t let Christians or the World question which you do.
Now get out there and do your part to start to
Love Hurting People!
**This statement also identifies how out of touch many preachers are if they believe that the Jan 6, 2021 was a fight or insurrection. A mob broke out of the people demonstrating, yes. An insurrection where no guns were confiscated from those arrested and when police opened the doors and let people in, no.
**There are may reasons why Americans volunteer to serve. It isn’t always just a selfish reason such as to get college money. Many serve to protect the democracy that we currently have, even though it is eroding away, or to insure that the family they will likely have will not grow up under a repressive regime and that of their neighbors. Even when people disagree with basic fundamentals, many of those that served did so that they would have the right to disagree with those basic fundamentals. And those that volunteered did so that those that wouldn’t volunteer, that believe that there is never a reason to fight, can have their belief and not be subjected to service and have their delusion of there is never a reason to fight. If you believe that there is not a reason to fight or you are against America, please do your service by NOT diminishing the sacrifice of those that did serve.